Although I had mentioned to my husband wanting to go to Confession the night before, my day had been growing busier. I became distracted with this and that–laundry, paperwork, groceries– and had almost forgotten my intent to go. As the hour drew near, my husband said, “Didn’t you want to go to Confession this afternoon? I’ll go, too, and we can take turns holding Baby Gwen.” “What would I do without him?” I thought to myself. “Forget about confession for one.”
I saw them out of the corner of my eye as I sat in the chapel–an old woman and an old man waiting to receive the Sacrament of Reconciliation. The woman stood up first and walked to the confessional. When she came out, she helped lift her husband to his feet, handed him his cane, and helped to steady him. Then she carefully walked with her arm around him to the door of the confessional so that he wouldn’t fall.
When he was done, his wife stood up and helped him back to a chair. I realized that they had just created a beautiful image of marriage. The woman had literally helped guide her husband closer to God’s grace. Marriage is a path to holiness. A gift God created to lead us closer to him. Living out our vocation daily by growing nearer to God with our spouse may not appear as obvious as how this wife had cared for her husband in the chapel. It can be the ordinary tasks of love, the tiny, daily sacrifices that make up a marriage. We are called to love our spouse with the love of Christ, to encourage our beloved in holiness, to grow together by God’s grace. What a weighty calling! A calling I find myself falling short of every day.
I looked beside me at my husband, holding our newborn baby girl, and then back at the old couple, helping each other walk from the chapel to their car and thought to myself, “If only we can be that lucky. To grow old together, leading each other to Christ, day after day.” That is my hope and prayer.
Tracey says
Hi Haley!
I loved the image of the older couple you created. So beautiful and will stay with me today as I go about my day! We pray the same prayer here as well, that my husband and I will lead each other closer and closer to Christ, each and every day. 🙂
Haley says
Thank you, Tracey!
Miriam says
Beautiful image, Haley! This is also what I want for my life. I hope and pray that I will find a man of God, so we can grow together in our faith.
Haley says
Prayers that this beautiful desire of your heart will be given to you 🙂
Alexis says
What a beautiful image! Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful story!
Haley says
Thank you, Alexis!
Mandi @ Life Your Way says
Beautiful, Haley!
Haley says
Thank you so much, Mandi!
michele says
What a beautiful story! Thanks for sharing.
Haley says
Thanks, Michele! How close are you to your due date? Getting pretty close, right?
Alli Shoemaker says
As a 22-year old newly wed of about one month, this gives me something to look forward to! Thank you for sharing. I have been reading your blog for a while now, and I absolutely adore it. As an aspiring writer myself, you’ve provided me with so much inspiration, and it’s nice to see that I wasn’t the only one who got married barely out of college 🙂
Haley says
Thank you so much for your kind words about Carrots! And congrats on your marriage! You’re not alone. I was only halfway done with college when we got married so we’re even nuttier than you are 🙂 Wouldn’t trade those days for anything.
Jessica says
I completely teared up reading this. It’s so beautiful, thanks for sharing. It reminds me of my grandparents. They’ve been married nearly 64 years. My grandpa is unable to attend Mass, due to his health, but my grandma unfailingly brings him the Eucharist every time she attends.
Yours and other stories remind me how much I am called to continually bring my husband to Jesus, or like in my grandma’s case, bring Jesus to him.
Thanks. This made my day.
Haley says
Oh Jessica, I just love that story about your grandparents. How beautiful.
Margot Payne says
“A path to holiness.” Amen. Great post.
Haley says
Thanks 🙂
Abbey @ Surviving Our Blessings says
I knew from the title that this was going to be a good one for me this week. It was. Thanks, Haley.
Haley says
Aw, I’m so glad, Abbey!
Sister T says
What a beautiful post! I have been married 30 years, and could not think of a more beautiful way to describe an ideal marriage! May I use this in pastoral counseling and from the pulpit? Really enjoy your writings.
Haley says
Oh thank you so much! I would be honored if you used it to illustrate marriage in your counseling and preaching.