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Holy Time: The Joy of the Incarnation and the Pietà

The Incarnation of Christ, celebrated in the liturgical season of Christmastide, takes on a richer significance for me with each passing year. The story of the Nativity is fuller, but undeniably more strange. It loses the saccharine quality of greeting cards and becomes complicated. Christmas becomes more intricately connected to Holy Week and I’m reminded that the miracle of the Incarnation isn’t merely that Our Lord was born as a human on the very earth I walk on, but that He came in order that he might die. The wooden manger foreshadows the wooden cross where his life will be extinguished. The joyful songs of angels at Our Lord’s birth precede the agony of the heavenly hosts at his death. The wise men bring myrrh, perfumed ointments for funeral preparations, to point to Our Lord’s true purpose in visiting this planet. The ecstasy the Blessed Virgin must have experienced when she first beheld him brings to mind her unrivaled suffering as she watched his torturous Passion. It is all one. It is all connected—God’s unfathomable love and sacrifice for humanity.

 

In some artistic renderings of the Nativity scene (I have Giuseppe Vermiglio’s Nativity and Adoration of the Shepherds in mind), there is a strange image included in the stable. It is a lamb, but not a cuddly creature adoring the precious Baby Jesus. It is a lamb with its legs bound, the sacrificial lamb that will be taken to slaughter, reminding us, as St. John the Baptist does, that when we see the Christ Child we are beholding the Lamb of God who will carry our sins to the cross.

I had a strange experience at the Christmas Mass this year. We sang this beautiful hymn:

What child is this, who, laid to rest,

On Mary’s lap is sleeping?

Whom angels greet with anthems sweet,

While shepherds watch are keeping?

This, this is Christ the King,

Whom shepherds guard and angels sing:

Haste, haste to bring him laud,

The babe, the son of Mary.

In the past this song has always conjured an idyllic image of the Infant Christ contentedly snoozing in his mother’s arm. But when I heard the words this year, I did not think of Bethlehem, I saw Golgotha. I saw a grieving Mother Mary cradling the dead body of Our Lord. I saw the Pietà, Michelangelo’s masterpiece that cries out in its sorrow and beautyBehold, God’s love for you.

The Nativity isn’t cute. It isn’t clean. The God of the Universe is born among animal dung right in the thick of humanity’s filth. He comes to give up everything, including his very life. But it is an undeniably beautiful scene because it is an image of God’s unwavering love.  His coming is the moment all creation has waited for with tears and groaning, like a woman in labor. Everything hinges upon it.

The school shooting at Sandy Hook Elementary is by no means the only tragedy that occurred during this holiday season. But it has made us grapple with the meaning of Christmas. I love what Ross Douthat said in his piece, “The Loss of the Innocents”:

…the Christmas story isn’t just the manger and the shepherds and the baby Jesus, meek and mild. The rage of Herod is there as well, and the slaughtered innocents of Bethlehem, and the myrrh that prepares bodies for the grave. The cross looms behind the stable — the shadow of violence, agony and death. In the leafless hills of western Connecticut, this is the only Christmas spirit that could possibly matter now.” 

Perhaps if we did not suffer, we could just see the Nativity as merely heart-warming and leave it at that. But, in this our exile, we grasp at the truth of the Incarnation as we cling to the Cross where our Savior’s arms are outstretched crying out, “Behold, God’s love for you.” And this most grotesque and most beautiful of all images, the Crucifixion, is what makes the Incarnation our source of hope. The true King has come to offer himself as a sacrifice for us. To heal what is broken. To set all things right. His sacrifice, his death becomes his triumph and our salvation. Take heart, I have overcome the world. And knowing that, we can sing “Joy to the World” with full hearts.

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Merry Christmas from Carrots!

Wishing all of you a wonderful Christmas! We’re been having a wonderful day with family (and a special movie date to see Les Mis while sweet grandparents watched the kiddos!).

So grateful for each and every one of my faithful readers who make it such a joy to blog in this space!

Christus Natus Est!

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Our 12 Days of Christmas!


Contrary to what retailers might have you believe, the 12 Days of Christmas are not the 12 days that precede Christmas. They actually begin on Christmas Day, lasting until the Feast of Epiphany on January 6th. This season, also known as Christmastide, is traditionally when the holiday celebrating starts, but you’d never know it from all the Christmas trees already stripped bare and left by the curb on December 26th. We’ve talked a lot about Advent at Carrots the past few weeks (and I’ve loved your insights in the posts you’ve linked up to Little Holydays!). If you have been observing Advent, you’re probably chomping at the bit to begin celebrating Christmas just like we are!

Here are our tentative ideas for how we will make each day of Christmastide special for our family:

Christmas Eve: In preparation for Christmas we will be decorating our tree today with beloved ornaments and making popcorn and cranberry garlands with our 3-year-old. In the evening we’ll go to Mass and then….the celebrating begins starting with a special family dinner with my parents and brother!

Christmas Day: We’ll spend a special day with my husband’s family, exchanging gifts, feasting, and enjoying being together. Merry Christmas!

2nd Day of Christmas, Dec. 26th (St. Stephen’s Day): After a lot of celebrating, this might be a good day for some quiet and enjoying Christmas movies (our favorites are listed below) that we’ve fasted from all of Advent.

3rd Day of Christmas, Dec. 27th (St. John the Evangelist’s Day): Drive around with hot cocoa to see the Christmas lights (before they all get taken down!).

4th Day of Christmas, Dec. 28th (The Holy Innocents): Make special Christmas Cookies and have a few friends over to sing carols!

5th Day of Christmas, Dec. 29th: Make paper snowflakes!

6th Day of Christmas, Dec. 30th (Feast of the Holy Family): Mass and a visit to a beautiful city park that is covered in Christmas lights each year. It’s magical and the kids will love it!

7th Day of Christmas, Dec. 31st: Take the kids to a local art gallery that is decorated for the holidays with dozens of trees and handmade ornaments by local artisans. The kids get to pick out a special ornament to bring home and put on the tree.

8th Day of Christmas, Jan. 1st (Mary, Mother of God): To Mass to celebrate Our Lady and enjoy a special feast!

9th Day of Christmas, Jan. 2nd: Make Gingerbread houses!

10th Day of Christmas, Jan. 3rd (Most Holy Name of Jesus): Find out our baby’s gender AND celebrate Daniel’s birthday!

11th Day of Christmas, Jan. 4th: Take the kids to see the gorgeous Camellia’s (Christmas Roses) in bloom at a local State Park.

12th Day of Christmas, Jan. 5th: Take the kids to a historical Spanish Mission that is now a museum with historical re-enactments to celebrate how the very first Christmases were observed in the New World. Our bishop is even saying Mass at the reconstructed church site and they will have Las Posadas for the children! Hoping to make a gluten-free Twelfth Night cake!

Favorite Christmas Movies and Books we will be enjoying:

The Muppet Christmas Carol (Can’t wait to share this one with Benjamin this year! I think he’ll love it!)

Elf (Daniel’s favorite)

How the Grinch Stole Christmas (the old cartoon)

Scrooge (A campy old musical starring Albert Finney. But I grew up with it and I LOVE it.)

Miracle on 34th Street (I actually really like the new version, too)

Harry Potter and the Sorceror’s Stone (Don’t know why, but it’s become a tradition for Daniel and I to watch this together during Christmas. It’s snowy and magical? But the kiddos will have to wait til their old enough to read the books first. Them’s the rules.)

Books:

The Donkey’s Dream by Barbara Berger (This is a new addition to our library. A friend introduced me to it when I was pregnant with Benjamin and I’ve wanted a copy ever since. It’s beautiful.)

Jingle, the Christmas Clown by Tomie dePaola

The Friendly Beasts by Tomie dePaola

George Balanchine’s The Nutcracker

The Nutcracker Doll by Mary Newel DePalma

A Little House Christmas by Laura Ingalls Wilder

Mortimer’s Christmas Manger by Karma Wilson

The Wee Christmas Cabin by Margaret Hodges

Christmas in the Barn by Margaret Wise Brown (We rented the edition with the Barbara Cooney illustrations from the library but there’s a newer edition available.)

 How are you celebrating Christmas this year?

Wishing you a wonderful Christmastide with family as we celebrate the Nativity of Our Lord!

 

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Christmas Tree Joy: A Photo Post

It’s been quiet at Carrots this week, friends. I got hit by another bout of serious morning sickness and have been out of commission for a couple of days. Thank heavens for my mom and my in-laws who took care of the kids almost all day yesterday so that I could rest and recover from some fun pregnancy vomiting. I spent the whole day in bed with ginger ale and Harry Potter audiobooks.

Anyhow, instead of a This Week’s Miscellany, I thought I’d share some photos from our trip to a local Christmas Tree farm last weekend with Daniel’s family. It is such a fun tradition for Benjamin. Who am I kidding? I love it just as much as he does! And this year, Miss Lucy got to really participate in the fun (last year she was a wee little thing.)

Please just pause and examine the adorableness of this toothy little grin. Also: is not one of the great joys of motherhood dressing your children up in amazing/embarrassing holiday sweaters? Oh. My. Love it.

Look at that precious face of joy and his ridiculously long hair! Don’t fear, I gave him a haircut after this pic was taken. He had put up a valiant resistance to haircuts due to how “itchy” the experience is, but I wore him down in the end. Doesn’t he look huge? I keep thinking of last year when he looked like this:

Cuteness! And prepare yourselves for the sweetness of an almost-two-year-old at Christmas:

Christmas Tree farm 2010! Excuse me while I have a little “Where has my baby boy gone?!” moment….ahem. *Not Teary-eyed!*

And now for more pictures of my Lucy Baby than you could possibly be interested in seeing…I just can’t help myself. Blame it on pregnancy hormones?

Baby girl was more interested in playing with leaves and sticks and dried grass than picking out trees.

I look at her a million times a day and can never get over how beautiful she is.

Where’s Lucy?

Peekaboo!

Lashes!

Hobbit child?

Lucy and her beautiful grandmother.

Precious loves.

We went last Saturday so that we could have the lights up on the tree by Gaudete Sunday (we’re waiting til Christmas Eve to decorate with ornaments.)

At 18 weeks!

In the plans today: some last minute Christmas errands (we exchange gifts with our kids on St. Nicholas Day but exchange gifts with Daniel’s family on Christmas Day.) And coming up soon: our 12 Days of Christmas plans!

Wishing you and your family a wonderful weekend and beautiful and peaceful final days of Advent!

Love,

Haley

p.s. I’ll be linking up this post on Monday for our Little HolyDays link-up and I’ll be “curating” the posts from last week so check back on Monday when I feature my very favorite posts of yours! There were some good ‘uns last week that I can’t wait to share :)

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Sleepers, Wake! An Advent Music Guide and Playlist

Are you enjoying the Little HolyDays link up? I have loved reading the posts you’ve shared! Here’s a little more Advent fun and don’t forget to link up with your posts (old or new) about Advent, St. Nicholas Day, the Immaculate Conception, or family seasonal traditions until the link up closes Thursday!

After explaining how we fast from Christmas music during Advent (and then turn up the jams during the Twelve Days of Christmas until Epiphany!), I get a variety of reactions including “Are you insane?” Well, probably. And “so, what DO you listen to during Advent?”  To be honest I am just now discovering “Advent music” instead of just abstaining from Christmas music and I have completely fallen in love with the haunting and hopeful liturgical music of the season. I can’t wait to share it with you and I’ve even created an Advent playlist for your listening pleasure (at the bottom of the post)!

So, here’s my guide to Advent music so that you don’t have to play “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel” on repeat for several weeks until you’re ready to blast “Joy to the World!” on Christmas morning.

First of all, you might discover, like I did, that some of your favorite “Christmas” tunes aren’t actually Christmas tunes at all! “O Come, O Come, Emmanuel” and “Lo, How a Rose E’re Blooming” have always been my favorites and behold! They’re Advent songs, so you can jam out to them right here, right now!

Now, it’s time to discover some Advent hymns you might not be familiar with. Maybe I’m the last person on earth to hear “O Come, Divine Messiah” but it’s so beautiful and I am hooked! We’ve started singing it each night as we light our Advent candles. A great introduction to some traditional Advent songs is the Advent at Ephesus album. A reader first suggested it and then sweet Melanie of Trendy Traditions gifted me with the album and I haven’t stopped listening to it! In the car, at the house, all the time.

Another Advent favorite in our household is Handel’s Messiah. It’s not all Adventy, there’s some Christmasy parts and even Lenten and Easter sections but I love how it depicts the big picture of God’s redemption which is an important idea to reflect on during Advent.

One of my most beloved Advent tradition is going to the community “Messiah Sing” with my mom every year. A couple hundred folks show up and create the chorus and amazing soloists take on the difficult solos. My mom and I have our own scores and we rock the Alto section. I took Lucy last year in the Maya wrap because she was still nursing every hour or so and I think I nursed her all the way through the Hallelujah Chorus.  I even flew home from Texas to attend with my mom when she was going through chemo for breast cancer. It was the best way I could think of to show my encouragement and support. Even though she felt crummy from her treatment, going together that year is one of my favorite memories and I’m more grateful each year to have the honor of sharing this tradition with her and the grace of her presence in my life.  So the Messiah is a big part of Advent for me.

I also saw some great Advent music inspiration from Christy from Fountains of Home and Abbey of Survivng Our Blessings. Great Advent suggestions and Abbey even included an Advent Playlist.

I’m enjoying following @OccupyAdvent on Twitter and reading their Advent playlist suggestions because they’re suggesting popular songs about waiting and Adventy themes like Johnny Cash’s: “When the Man Comes Around.” Such a great song. Or Mumford and Sons “I Will Wait.” I included them both on my playlist. What songs do you love that could fit into an Advent theme even though they’re not technically about Advent?

Here’s my playlist of all my favorite Advent songs (and some songs that kinda sorta fit the theme even if they’re not technically religious.) Enjoy! (You’ll need Spotify to listen, but it’s free and awesome so you’ll thank me later.)

A few remarks on the Sleepers, Wake! Advent playlist:

“O Come, O Come Emmanuel” – Sufjan Stevens (This is my all-time favorite version of this song. I love Sufjan always and forever even though the Age of Adz tour made me want to cry and go back to listening to Seven Swans.)

“Come Thou Long-Expected Jesus” – St. Olaf Choral Ensembles (One of my favorite hymns. I didn’t realize til recently it was an Advent song.)

“I Will Wait” – Mumford and Sons – (Waiting, Hope, Expectation….it’s a stretch but it works, right?)

“Lo, How a Rose E’er Blooming” – Charlotte Church  (Again, one of my favorite hymns. I love Sufjan’s version, too.)

“O Come, Divine Messiah” – Benedictines of Mary, Queen of Apostles (Currently my favorite Advent song. We are singing it when we light our Advent candles each night.)

“Til Kingdom Come” - Coldplay (OK, it’s a reach but “For you, I’d wait ’til kingdom come.Until my day, my day is done. And say you’ll come, and set me free…” It works, right?)

“Gabriel’s Message” – King’s College Choir (Classic Advent hymn.)

“Creator Alme Siderum” – Gregorian (Gorgeous.)

“The Man Comes Around” – Johnny Cash (Perfect for Advent. Perfect for anytime. I love you, Johnny Cash. If this doesn’t get you fired up for Advent, I don’t know how to help you.)

“Rorate Caeli” – Chant Meditation (Didn’t know this one until trying to find Advent songs. So lovely.)

“Alma Redemptoris Mater” – Sequentia (Same story. I want a class on beautiful Church music.)

“People Look East” – The Girls Choir of Bath Abbey (One of the beautiful Advent songs that we actually sing at my parish. Wish there were more but I’m grateful this one is so good.)

“Comfort Ye” from the Messiah – Handel (This gives me chills.)

“Lo, He Comes with Clouds Descending” – Choir of St Edmundsbury Cathedral (Another classic.)

“Sleepers, Wake” – Bach (Didn’t realize this was Adventy, but I’ve always loved it so I’m excited for another excuse to listen.)

“Rejoice, Rejoice, Believers” – St. Olaf Choir Ensembles (Who’s ready for Christmas!)

What are your favorite Advent tunes?

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Little HolyDays: The Feast of St. Nicholas

Welcome to our first Little HolyDays link up and Happy New Year! No, I haven’t gotten the months confused, it’s the beginning of a new liturgical year. Yesterday was the first Sunday of Advent. Let’s hope you were more organized than I and didn’t spend part of your Sunday scrambling around looking  for your Advent wreath (don’t worry! I found it!).

Anyhow, for our very first Little HolyDays link up (yay!) I wanted to share with you about what we’ll be doing to celebrate the Feast of St. Nicholas on Dec. 6th. (The Little HolyDays link up is at the bottom).

Until recently, I didn’t know anything about St. Nicholas other than the fact that Santa Claus is his strange holiday descendant of sorts. When I did get to know St. Nicholas a little bit, he turned out to be a huge surprise. This ain’t yo’ grandma’s saint! Well, I don’t know your grandma. Maybe she has a great devotion to St. Nicholas. But what I’m trying to say is, St. Nicholas is nothing like his jolly, rosy-cheeked, red-suited, cookie-snarfing counterpart who is concerned with everyone’s “niceness.” In fact, I don’t think St. Nicholas put much stock in “being nice” but he was a fighter for the truth—literally.  From examinations of this holy bishop’s relics in Bari, Italy, it’s clear that he sported a seriously broken nose. It appears to be broken multiple times and some legends even claim he grew up as a street fighter. We do know that he was kicked out of the Council of Nicea for punching the heretic Arias in the face. Arias was teaching that Christ was not fully divine and St. Nicholas just couldn’t listen to another word.

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Fist raised and causing a riot. Jolly Old St. Nicholas, right?!

While I’m not advocating punching heretics in the face, (and he did get in big trouble for his violent act), I can’t help but love St. Nicholas for his fiery passion for the truth. In case the face-punch tale has you convinced that St. Nicholas was a big jerk, let me tell you a couple more stories to reveal this saints courage and compassion. Upon hearing that three innocent men were going to be executed, St. Nicholas ran to the scene and demanded that the executioner put down his sword. The courage and authority of the saint halted the execution and the prisoners were freed. Or maybe the executioner heard about what happened to Arias. When St. Nicholas heard that a poor man’s three daughters had no dowry to marry and would likely be forced into prostitution, he anonymously provided them each with a generous dowry. This may be how the tradition of giving gifts to children on St. Nicholas Day got started. I love St. Nicholas’s passion and active love, even though it must have gotten him into trouble sometimes. I think his devotion to justice, truth, and charity is something that merits a big celebration.

At our house, we exchange gifts on St. Nicholas Day instead of Christmas Day. It’s traditional to fill children’s shoes with little presents and so we buy each child a new pair of shoes, fill them with little edible treats, and wrap up any other little gifties we’re giving our little ones. Presents at our house are a simple affair, but we don’t want them to be the focus of Christmas so we like enjoying them together on a different day. We do join my husband’s family on Christmas Day to exchange gifts with them, but so far I think our kids enjoy being together with their extended family as much as the gifts. The presents themselves don’t seem to take the spotlight off the meaning of the day. How do you arrange gift-giving in your Christmas traditions?

This year, as St. Nicholas Day falls on a Thursday, we’ll try to attend the 7am Mass followed by presents and we’ll end the day with a feast: Sparkling Pear Juice as a special treat for the kids (and this pregnant gal), Cranberry Chicken from this cookbook, fresh greens from our urban garden, and I’ll try to create a gluten-free version of these traditional St. Nicholas Day spice cookies.  In general, our Advent is pretty somber: lots of vegetarian meals, simple soups, and quiet evenings. St. Nicholas Day is a bright spot in the First Week of Advent.

We don’t really celebrate Santa Claus, although our kids know who he is and know that many families do Santa-related things during the month of December. And I don’t think Santa is bad or that family’s with special Santa traditions should give them up. But let’s be real, in a contest for awesomeness, I think the generous, brave, face-punching saint is the clear winner. :)

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Now it’s time for you to share your traditions!

We are three Catholic bloggers who love to observe the liturgical year to deepen our families’ faith and build up the domestic church. We would love to hear about your family’s celebrations and traditions! Please join us in “redeeming the time” in this Year of Faith by sharing your posts (old or new) about feast days, liturgical seasons, etc. in this new linkup. We are starting at the beginning of the Liturgical Year: The Season of Advent!

Some topics we would be excited to read about during the Advent and Christmas seasons are (but not limited to!):

  • Sustainability and Responsible Gift Giving/Food
  • Food & Recipes
  • Simple Holiday traditions, crafts and activities
  • Reflections on the seasons
  • Charity
  • Teaching and Learning  about the Christian Year with Children

This link up will be open until Thursday evening, December 6th. There will be a new link up open on Monday, December 10th, and we will highlight some of our favorite links from the previous week in the new post, and on a Little HolyDays Pinterest board.

For the three of us, this link up is a way in which we plan on exploring and deepening our Catholic faith, but we would really love to hear from bloggers of all denominations.

We welcome you to share your own feast, festivals, and celebrations that fall within each week of December.

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How We Celebrate Advent

After writing about observing Advent instead of fighting Santa, I promised to tell you a little bit about what our family does to celebrate Advent. It’s actually very simple and I think the difficulty lies in having to say no to a lot of festivities in order to spend Advent waiting, reflecting, and anticipating.

What We Do:

We bring out our Nativity Scene. My sweet mother-in-law gave us this beautiful olive wood set for Christmas a couple of years ago and it is just perfect for little ones to play with! It’s practically indestructible and each piece (other than Baby Jesus) is too big for an infant to choke on. Win! Usually I bring it out on the first day of Advent but this year I thought I would bring out one piece each day. Once they’re all set up we can just wait until Christmas morning to put Baby Jesus in the manger.

Last year we started having a Jesse Tree. The Jesse Tree’s ornaments tell the “big picture” story of God’s redemption. Daniel and Benjamin painted some ornaments and we hung them up on a branch we brought inside. We didn’t get a chance to make an ornament for each day, so I think we’ll try to paint some more and if we run out of time we’ll just color some ornaments and make more lasting ones next year. Keep it simple!

Advent candles are always a central part of the season for us. I’ve already told you about my very favorite Advent candles that Benjamin helps to make. We do Scripture readings as we light them. Sometimes we just do the readings on Sundays, sometimes we’re more consistent and do them each night.

Benjamin and I also like to decorate the house with simple greenery. Last year we went to Home Depot or Lowe’s Christmas Tree sales area, can’t remember which, where they let you grab and take home Christmas tree branches they cut off of the trees. As much as you want! Free decor. Yes, please.

We usually cut down our tree in mid-December as a tradition with Daniel’s family. Then we string lights on the tree but don’t decorate with ornaments until Christmas Eve. The lights remind us that we’re waiting for the Light of the World.

We have an Advent calendar of little storybooks telling the Christmas story that you can hang on the tree after you read them. Benjamin really loves reading these together and it’s so hard for him to wait for the next day to read the next “chapter.”

For my personal reflection, I like to read some of the selections in Watch for the Light. There are some wonderful and beautiful selections by folks like Thomas Merton and Dorothy Day and then some that aren’t so hot, so I skip those. All-in-all, it’s a lovely book.

We also have some special traditions on Dec. 6th (St. Nicholas Day) when our kids receive all their presents from us, and Dec. 13th (St. Lucy’s Day) which is my daughter’s name day.

What We Don’t Do:

Listen to Christmas music.  I know! It’s actually torturous to wait until Christmas to listen to my favorite Christmas songs. We console ourselves with Advent hymns like “O Come, O Come Emmanuel” and “Come, Though Long Expected Jesus.” And we always listen to a lot of Handel’s Messiah which I think is great Advent music. Sometimes I play Bach’s Christmas Oratorio. It’s not in English so I don’t feel so much like I’m cheating. I know it sounds hard (and it is) but listening to Christmas music during Christmas is soooo exciting when you’ve waited all through Advent. Benjamin wants me to sing “Joy to the World” to him every night for weeks.

Go to Christmas parties. We just kind of skip ‘em. I don’t think that’s what every family needs to do, but it helps us keep things simple and our schedule relaxed.

Decorate our tree (I explained above). But once it’s Christmas (and sometimes Christmas Eve) we string popcorn and cranberries and Benjamin helps me put all the ornaments on. I get so sentimental about tree decorating!

Watch Christmas movies. Yes, like waiting for the Christmas music, it’s so hard. But then we pull them out during the Christmas season and Benjamin can watch them over and over. And I usually cheat by watching movies that remind me of Christmas but aren’t technically Christmas movies like Little Women. Can’t help myself.

Make Christmas cookies. Yup, we wait til Christmas. We have a set of nativity cookie cutters and the little ones love it when it’s time to bake and decorate.

For us, I think the key is just adding a little extra quiet to our days, trying to attend daily Mass more regularly, going to Adoration, keeping meals simple, and other disciplines for this “little Lent.” The kids love the nativity scene and advent wreath and I think it gives the season some special traditions they look forward to. For me, the challenge is in NOT doing  a lot of the things I want to do.

This year I want our family to memorize the St. Andrew prayer:

Hail and blessed be the hour and moment in which the Son of God was born of the most pure Virgin Mary, at midnight, in Bethlehem, in piercing cold. In that hour, vouchsafe, O my God! to hear my prayer and grant my desires, through the merits of Our Saviour Jesus Christ, and of His Blessed Mother. Amen.

And something I really want to emphasize more in our Advent observance is giving. Making peanut butter bird feeders for the birds. Giving away clothes and toys to those who need them more than we do. Choosing a special charity to save up for by sacrificing eating out or other luxury expenses. Any brilliant ideas?

How do you observe Advent?

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Holy Time: Observing Advent Instead of Fighting Santa

Every year I hear folks bemoaning the secularization of Christmas and how commercialism has overtaken what used to be a Christian holiday. I read news stories about which retail stores are promoting “Happy Holidays” instead of “Merry Christmas” and which groups and organizations are boycotting those stores for choosing to greet their customers in one way or another.  People label it the “war on Christmas”—this battle between Santa and Jesus, a battle in which you can score points for your side by firmly replying “Merry CHRISTMAS” to the cashier who has been instructed to say “Happy Holidays” or vice versa.

I get it. Yes, I want to celebrate Christmas as a religious holiday, but I’m really not interested in “fighting” this war by shopping at this retailer instead of that retailer or by petitioning to ban the playing of “Santa Baby” in all public places. (Although someone should. Worst song ever, amirite?!)

The secularization of Christmas is not a new development. Even looking back decades at the portrayal of Christmas in It’s a Wonderful Life! (which, I admittedly adore), Christmas is more of a family and community holiday than a religious one. Go back further and we have A Christmas Carol. The message isn’t a bad one: having a spirit of giving, learning to love people over possessions, the tragic loneliness of greed, and a chance for redemption. I listen to Jim Dale read the audiobook every year and I cry like a baby. I can’t wait to share the Muppet Christmas Carol with my 3-year-old this year. So don’t peg me as a Dickens hater. I’m not. But, if I’m honest, it’s a lot of sentimental secular humanism and very little Christianity.

For most Americans, the holidays are a time to be with family, be thankful for all we have, and give whatever we can to those who need it. There’s certainly nothing wrong with that! And personally, I’m glad for a little distinction between our cultural celebration of holiday cheer and observing the Christmas season as a religious tradition.

I think there is such a simple solution if you really want Christmas to be a religious holiday for your family. Just observe the traditional seasons of the liturgical year. The Church has such a beautiful rhythm to celebrating the various seasons of the Christian story. The four weeks before Christmas (a little after Thanksgiving until December 25th) is the season of Advent.

Advent (not New Years) is the beginning of the Christian year and it’s considered a ‘little Lent.’ It’s quiet. It’s somber. It’s full of waiting and hoping. Just as there can be no real celebration of the Resurrection without the pain of Good Friday, there can be no real Christmas without the expectation of Advent.

St. Charles Borromeo writes, “Each year, as the Church recalls this mystery, she urges us to renew the memory of the great love God has shown us. This holy season teaches us that Christ’s coming was not only for the benefit of his contemporaries; his power has still to be communicated to us all…The Church asks us to understand that Christ, who came once in the flesh, is prepared to come again. When we remove all obstacles to his presence he will come, at any hour and moment, to dwell spiritually in our hearts, bringing with him the riches of his grace.”

Isn’t that beautiful? But that kind of preparation doesn’t just happen as we snarf down red and green M&Ms. We have a part to play. We have to offer this time to ready our hearts for Our Lord. If you really commit to observing Advent, your December is going to look very different.

For most American families, by the evening of December 25th, they have been eating, buying, Christmas music listening, gift-giving, gift-receiving, tree trimming, and cookie baking for over a month. They’re sick to death of it. Get the tree out by the road! Take the decorations down the day after Christmas! Turn that blasted music off!

If you observe Advent, before Christmas arrives you might not be tree trimming, you might not be holiday cheering. You’ll know every verse of “O Come, O Come Emmanuel” by heart and you’ll be itching to belt out “Joy to the World!” You’ll be reflecting, reading, praying, waiting. And it will be a sacrifice. What will it look like for your family? You might decide to forego all the Christmas parties that happen during Advent. You might avoid the malls blaring Christmas music starting in October. You might decide to keep gifts super simple so that you’re not doing any scrambling during the quiet of Advent and can focus on waiting for Jesus. The practicalities of how you decide to observe Advent will vary from family to family. But if you do set aside this time as a holy preparation, it’s a surefire thing that in comparison to the bustle around you will look quite odd. (Lucky for us, with Chinese Cabbages growing all over our front yard and 21 chickens running about our urban homestead, we’re already the neighborhood weirdos.)

I’m really selling this Advent thing, aren’t I?! Before you label me as the modern Ebenezer Scrooge, let me tell you a secret. I LOVE Christmas. I love cutting down the tree and stringing the lights (Ok, fine, watching my husband string the lights). I get all teary-eyed and heart-warmy when I unwrap our ornaments and tell my kids stories about how we got each one. I giggle with glee when I get to play Sufjan’s Christmas tunes. I love dressing my kids up for Christmas Mass, reading them Christmas stories, and setting up the Nativity scene

Here’s the good news. If you observe Advent, on Christmas Day, it will feel like CHRISTMAS! And then you get to celebrate it for TWELVE DAYS. That twelve days of Christmas song was for real! It’s a liturgical season twelve days long. It’s a Christmas-lover’s dream come true! You’ve been waiting and waiting and waiting. You’ve been lighting candles and watching the wax melt a little lower each night. You’ve been setting up your Jesse Tree and remembering God’s story for the world and how the Incarnation is the point on which it all spins. The tree trimming, the carol singing, the feasting, the celebrating—twelve whole days of it! You wait and wait through the long days of Advent like a pregnant woman in her last month. Then when we celebrate the joyous birth of Our Lord it is time to kick up our heels! And we do. We really do.

I want to share with you soon about what our Advent looks like practically in a future post. For now I’ll leave you with a little more inspiration from St. Charles Borromeo:

Beloved, now is the acceptable time spoken of by the Spirit, the day of salvation, peace and reconciliation: the great season of Advent. This is the time eagerly awaited by the patriarchs and prophets, the time that holy Simeon rejoiced at last to see. This is the season that the Church has always celebrated with special solemnity. We too should always observe it with faith and love, offering praise and thanksgiving to the Father for the mercy and love he has shown us in this mystery. “

Amen.

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Don’t forget to linkup with your Advent posts on December 3rd for Little Holydays: Redeeming Time with Feasts, Fasts, Holidays, and Everyday!

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On the Last Day of Christmas…

(Lucy’s Christmas shoes and special Christmas china from Daniel’s mom)

We are:

Listening to Christmas Music

Drinking Hot Chocolate (miraculously, Benjamin hasn’t spilled it yet)

And, by Benjamin’s request, watching the Nutcracker

This little Christmas elf is enjoying the last day of Christmastide.

I think this little man is going to miss the Christmas season. Or perhaps I should say, I think this little man is going to miss candy canes.

I love being their mama.

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Our Year in Pictures: 2011!

I think Daniel and I both agree that 2011 was our best year to date. Here’s some highlights (which turned out to become a monstrously long post with mostly pregnancy pics, oh well).

January

Daniel got a new job and we hoped to get pregnant again. Benjamin continued to amaze us with the joy he brought to our world.

February

In February we celebrated Benjamin’s 2nd Birthday (A Farm Birthday Party) and two days later found out I was pregnant.

March

Our garden produced some great food and Benjamin loved “helping” Daddy tend to it. I was really, really, sick for the whole month with 24-hour morning sickness. Daniel and my mom picked up all the slack for me. Don’t know what I would do without them. Look how tired I look, holy cow:

April

Our first Easter back in Tallahassee and the anniversary of our Confirmation. Benjamin made a little best friend named Ulee from library storytime. His mom, Zemi, and I hit it off and the boys enjoyed playing at the Jr.Museum (Tallahassee Museum) together.

I started looking really pregnant and the nausea started to get a little bit better, although I was exhausted from growing Ms. Lucy.

May

A busy month of leading company rehearsals for the Spring ballet and getting my little students ready for their recital dances. Benjamin and I started doing summery things like going to the pool and Daniel and I celebrated our 5th anniversary by a weekend away at the Animal Kingdom Lodge where we spent our honeymoon. Why we didn’t take one picture…I don’t know.

June

We took Benjamin blueberry picking and we fell into a wonderful routine of morning outings for the summer: park, pool, jr. museum, pool, brogan museum. Such a happy time! And I got bigger:

At the end of June we had the best family vacation ever: a trip to North Carolina for my wonderful friend Jane’s wedding and then a week split between resting and reading at my grandparents mountain home and visiting my wonderful cousins, aunt, and uncle, in SC.

July

We returned from vacation just before the 4th of July and I was suddenly hugely pregnant. My good friend, Beca, was in town for the summer and kept me company. We also said farewell to the Harry Potter film series with a party and a midnight movie. That wouldn’t be a major milestone of most people’s year, but…well, you know how we feel about Harry Potter.

August

August was pretty miserably hot, although nothing near the infernal summer they had in Texas this year. I was getting SO BIG and so excited about our baby girl. Our dear friends, Brian and Lois, moved into our third bedroom while raising support for their mission work in Nepal. We also started to get really plugged in at our parish and starting making some wonderful Catholic friends, something we’d never had before, including my friend Colleen who has been such an encouragement to me this year.

September

I turned 26 this month and started to have Braxton-Hicks contractions all the time. My due date was October 13th but we were sure she wouldn’t wait so long to come since I was already dilated…we ended up waiting, waiting, and waiting some more. I did some pretty nutty nesting to get ready for our sweet girl and we rearranged the house to prepare for her arrival. My friend Erin was visiting for a couple of weeks and kept me distracted with Downton Abbey.

October

We had a scare when Benjamin caught Hand, Foot, and Mouth disease (a mild illness for toddler but dangerous for newborn if the mother has been exposed). He had to be quarantined away from me at Marmee’s house for over a week. Thankfully, I didn’t catch it and neither did Lucy when she FINALLY arrived almost two weeks past her due date and met her incredibly proud big brother:

I love this picture so much, despite the fact that I’m still so puffy from late pregnancy and labor. I think Benjamin’s expression is precious and he’s been just as sweet and gentle with his sister each day since.

And SHE. Well…we’re so in love her. From day one she has been the most precious and sweet of babies. She’s so easy, so adorable. So happy and smiley and SLEEPY. Praise God.

November

We started learning how to live life as a four-person family. Sleep-deprived and full of joy, we celebrated Lucy’s baptism and the anniversary of Benjamin’s baptism.

We hosted Thanksgiving at our house with Daniel’s folks, my folks and brother, and some dear friends.

December

In late November and December we were all pretty miserably ill with colds and sinus/throat/ear/eye infections. Even sweet Lucygirl. But it’s still been a wonderful Advent and Christmas. Having two precious babes is a gift I am thankful for every minute.

Can’t wait to see what 2012 has in store…Praise God from whom all blessings flow.

 

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